“I wonder, among all the tangles of this mortal coil, which one contains tighter knots to undo, and consequently suggests more, tugging, and pain, and diversified elements of misery, than the marriage tie.” Edith Wharton
Have you ever wondered, what is unique in a marriage. Why marry at all?
What is it all about?
- New relationship/ interpersonal relationship,
- social union of two families,
- for procreation,
- legal contract,
- or is it a moral-social-physical obligation that each individual has to fulfill in this journey called life.
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Marriage is a relationship between two unique individuals. It encompasses the emotional, physical, intellectual, moral aspects of a person.
Marriage is an unimaginable heartache and a painful joy. Its full of ups and downs. But even as you tread this path, there is a sense of security, and you rather be with that special person.
Marriage is about sharing yourself – physical and psychological.
To grow and to teach.
To grow and to rebuild.
Its all about being in love despite.
Someone once said,” a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”.
To attain this pinnacle of happiness in a relationship is challenging.
Have you ever wondered what its like to share yourself? The very thought of it, sends chills down the spine. Yet, you so easily cave in, to fulfill obligations.
It doesn’t matter, whether two beings meet by chance or is brought together by some human directives.
Its your choice that matters.
“My dear child, what you must try to see is that nothing has changed. When the Maker brings you your husband (the one you love), you will be aware that it was He who made you for each other and He who planned your meeting. And at that moment, just as we did, you’ll want to sing a song of praise to Him” (Adam to his grand daughter, By Joshua Harris in BOY MEETS GIRL)
To meet someone of your own wavelength, is not easy. But neither is it Utopian. Instead of chasing the dream, you subject yourself to the whims and fancies of the society you live in.
Strange, but for centuries, marriage was all about procreation and social obligation. Its beyond the human mind to fathom such a life. Even if it requires you to hurt a few souls, the wait for the finest is gratifying.
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Oh wait!!!! Why am I blabbering so much?? And what is the title all about??? Heeeee 
Well, I have been officially launched in to the matrimonial market as I would call it!! And so these are the thoughts that went through my mind. Now that I have discovered this “dreadful” truth, what do I do????
I have rebelled enough and so I am out of excuses.
So do I give in or do I wait?? ..:-(
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September 8, 2009 at 1:21 am
Shalom
Besides my Congratulations to offer you, I have a few objections:
1) U talk of falling in love. This is a passive phenomenon which requires no effort and implies being subjective to a feeling. I beg to differ. More than being in love its loving which makes marriage work. U have to ” love” and not ” be in love”. And that requires active work and is a conscious decision. To love does not just mean to be subject to an emotion but it means to makea conscious decision. Im not being patronising. Maybe u knew all this just that ur syntax made me uncomfortable thats all.
2) You quote Joshua Harris. Well Iv nt heard very good reports of that book. For more please contact Nishant. He can give you more info on why that book MAY mean more harm than good. Just contact him, I have not had the pleasure/torture of reading that book.
3) ” Someone once said,” a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”.
To attain this pinnacle of happiness in a relationship is challenging.”
Is that so? Is that the pinnacle in a relationship. I wonder.
September 8, 2009 at 10:45 pm
nuttyann
I am mourning and you are congratulating me!!!
Aaah well, I didn’t mean to say that, falling in love was a passive process. I guess I may have worded my thoughts wrong.
2) Joshua Harris’s book is full of convoluted ideas. Not completely based on the scriptures. Its more of a mushy tale than a guide!!
But I liked that quote. I am not sure, but I believe, God does not answer our prayers through signs. Its faith in an all knowing God that helps us accept the best.
3)I don’t know if that is all that is there in a relationship. But love is the foundation of it!!